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But pastors can turn all that knowledge around very quickly to get you to feel you’re falling in love.They show compassion, worming their way deep into your inner life.

They sometimes think it’s a relationship between two consenting adults.You automatically confide in these people with sensitive information for specific purposes, and in return, they do not use it for another goal—such as trying to develop sexual intimacy. The pastor can learn about your deepest values and fears and dreams at an alarmingly fast rate—and it’s nearly impossible for him or her not to use that for manipulative ends if the two of you get sexually involved.The entire United States recognizes a fiduciary duty in the pastor-parishioner relationship. Power corrupts, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.Jesus loves everyone equally, and so should a pastor. But in fact, in my case, my pastor’s nickname for me was “Belovedest”.Now, our “relationship” was kept mostly a secret except from a sort of inner circle of clergy and lay leadership.If they didn’t do like this, you wouldn’t be at their church.You could just go and pray with friends (which, by the way, is what Quakers do—they don’t have clergy, and their official name is “the Society of Friends).So I couldn’t tell anyone in my church about the biggest problem in my life—and that’s what churches are there for, to help you with the biggest problems in your life. Your emotions toward your church get mixed up with the emotions of your relationship.If you’re in crazy infatuation with your pastor, you might start feeling like your church is the greatest place in the world.(By the way, I keep on putting “relationship” in quotes because I don’t consider professional exploitation a relationship like we usually think of them. Certain professionals are given trust with no questions asked.“Dating” doesn’t describe it perfectly, either.) But I’ve heard of a number of cases in which parishioners got madly jealous and sometimes overtly hostile toward the one who was dating the minister. They, in turn, have heightened responsibilities toward their clients (students, parishioners).