Dating service for handicapped people

31 Oct

“So you are saying you don’t believe non-disabled people can date people with disabilities?” I asked a woman who opened a new matchmaking service in town.So far I have resisted the temptation to dust off my cowboy boots or pretend I’m a wine snob.However, maybe one day I will find the enthusiasm to take part in her trendy hipster dating activities.

She continued, “It would look weird me dating someone like you.” Again when I asked why she simply said, “You know the answer.”My friend’s reluctance to address why it is odd for people with disabilities and able-bodied folks to date each other mirrors the tension around the issue that exists in the media.Being advised to stick to your own kind is ironic coming from people who claim to be anti-racist.None of my friends would ever tell a person of color to try dating their own kind, but for some reason that message is fine when it comes to disability.After more verbal ping-pong about whether people with disabilities could date “normies,” I claimed a temporary victory.She agreed to let me upload my profile to her site.Furthermore, how could she guess that two men with cerebral palsy would call her within an hour?It was by sheer chance that I ended up having a debate about dating and disability with this woman.To many that statement may sound exaggerated, but it could be based on some truth.Last month, I was talking to a friend who does attendant work in the area.Maybe I could charm her so much that she would take me on as a client for free. Her ads could say, “If I could help this poor slob find love, I can find it for anybody.”With my friend’s help, I upload my profile to the site.I hear nothing back except for a few invites to wine tasting mixer and a square dancing singles night that are sponsored by her company.