Dating vs engagement

08 Mar

(See II Corinthians 5:7, Psalm , Romans , Psalm 13, and I John 4:8.)Because each individual, family, and set of circumstances is unique, each courtship will be unique.While those who choose courtship will hold to general guidelines for the relationship, their specific choices about when, where, and how to court may differ according to their needs and circumstances.(See Proverbs 3:5–7.)Courtship is a choice to avoid temptation and experience the blessings of purity.It is a choice to not emotionally give away your heart, piece by piece, to many others through casual dating relationships and instead to give your whole heart to your life partner.If defrauding (stirring up desires that cannot be righteously satisfied) occurs, the couple can foolishly and tragically give away both emotional and physical affections that should have been reserved for a life partner.Thus, in a dating relationship, frequently intimacy precedes commitment.Jesus gave this instruction with a promise: (Matthew ).When a person makes a growing relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ the foundation of all decisions—as he or she seeks God’s kingdom—God will provide all that is needed, including the marriage partner prepared by God just for that person.

Instead of focusing on God’s pleasure, the couple is often looking for personal pleasure.

(See Proverbs , .)The potential for a young person's heart to be broken, and for there to be great pain is there in a courtship just as it is in dating.

There is a godly way to date without placing on the relationship all of the rules, regulations, and strains of courtship.

Men and women who choose to date often have no commitment to consider marrying the other person.

Maturity and readiness for marriage are not considerations in the decision to date.