Private single parent dating dating a divorced man blog

10 Dec

In fact, a single-mum friend was seeing a guy who used her ‘lack of spontaneity’ as an excuse for sleeping with someone else.

But I soon got the wind knocked out of my sails when I opened up to friends and family about my newfound love life.I do realise this all sounds pretty depressing, but then, by some miracle, when I’d been single for around a year I met Jack* – someone I really liked who seemed to really like me.As his kids were grown up, he didn’t suggest we have our first date at a soft play area or express his disdain for solo parents.In reality, the things I want are fantastic nights out followed by lots of sex – but sadly they didn’t seem to top his list of priorities.It might sound harsh to ditch someone because they’re happy simply cuddling on the sofa once a week, but as a single mum, my free time when I can actually leave the house is precious, and I certainly didn’t want to waste it watching telly with Tom.I learned to keep quiet about my dating adventures and largely ignored the so-called ‘advice’, but I soon realised that meeting new men isn’t quite the wall-to-wall fun I’d imagined.What became immediately clear is that lots of people my age are like Tom – old before their time and acting like we’ve been married for 30 years.Some friends have implied that as I’m also approaching 40, I shouldn’t be worried about sex or physical attraction.But I refuse to accept that companionship is all I have to look forward to, even at the ‘advanced’ age of 38.Aside from the obvious safety issues, nobody expects child-free, single women to be happy with dates in their own living room, so why should I settle for that?I want to meet for coffees in lovely cafes, enjoy walks along the beach and go on amazing nights out that don’t end until the sun comes up.