Rating yourself dating

18 Feb

If you’re a gay man, pose outdoors—48 percent of the profile pics of the most popular gay men on Ok Cupid were snapped outside. ) Selfies are acceptable for women (45 percent of top-ranking straight women used them, as did 4 percent of lesbians), but not so much for men.

Enroll in a yoga class and learn to surf—they’re the most popular activities for men and women alike, so either desirable singles are super mellow or it’s aspirational, and everyone to be mellow.

As Galland explains, if you want real love, you must learn when the motivation is pure, or, “as we Brits say, it’s just to ring the bell and get the coconut! Has a good job, a passion for philanthropy, a naughty sense of humor. This is it, you think giddily with the click of a mouse as the first date is set. Yet, time and time again, what starts out as totally fun attention bubbling with sexual tension ends a few weeks later flat and lifeless. We update our profile with a sexier pic and again we seek out another. We’ve all heard wonderful stories of online dating matches who find their way to the altar, or at least a committed relationship.

My job is to gently, or at times sharply pull them out of a drowning vat and give them permission to have some downtime to dry out. On top of it, sleeping around is an arduous process.

Only then can I help them to reboot their lives and remind them of how fascinating they truly are. Having a suggestive look is fine but too provocative spells out, ‘I’m a bad girl and I need to be…’ Next, consider what kind of person you really want. And very few women can do this without having their energy zapped out of them.

In short, we couldn’t have scraped all this data and derived this advice without the help of these talented data crunchers who are as dedicated to data analysis as we are.

Zohar Lazar Buried in all that data were some surprising facts about how to optimize your dating profile.