Recovering from dating a borderline

22 Nov

Like others, individuals suffering with BPD seek acceptance, forgiveness and reconciliation.

Because of childhood trauma histories experienced by many with the disorder, it is important for the patient to be able to collaborate emotionally and therapeutically so they may tell their story.

Because of this, they may physically lash out at their partner.

Studies have found that BPD is related to intimate partner aggression, including physical, emotional and sexual aggression.

Anger, jealousy and depression are typical of these men.

They may be physically aggressive when they believe that a social or emotional distance exists between them and their female partners.

Irritability and inappropriate anger with temper tantrums may occur. While love addiction is not medically diagnosable, addictive behavior is difficult to live with. They are unable to see the faults of their partner, and cannot tolerate changes in intimacy.

Those with BPD commonly mask their dependency and manipulation.

Furthermore, women with borderline personality disorder may be at a greater risk of using interpersonal physical aggression than those without the disorder.

Counseling is vital, and couples may wish to seek their own therapists who practice dialectical behavior and other forms of therapy.

Studies of lesbian abusers found similar dichotomous thinking and feeling patterns.

In these relationships, violence was used when they felt their partners were becoming emotionally distant or when physical separation was threatened.